Doys have a tendency to consider themselves as more assertive, more aggressive, etc., than slaves. Some think it comes down down seriously to a protocol expectation of males versus slaves, although these too are comparable and often the distinctions are incredibly slight it’s not at all times apparent. To elaborate from the protocols would simply take an entire other e-mail and that’s additionally defendant upon which protocol you suggest, which community you’re in, or will you be dealing with the protocol between simply your self along with your Dominant, or the protocol you’ve got with other boys/slaves?
Nevertheless, we myself have already been both boi and servant (and I generally call myself child these times, not boi, although i quite enjoyed being a servant too), and also the similarities are numerous. I wish to do a good task for the Dominant that i’m serving. I wish to feel great about myself plus the items that i really do. I would like my community become a significantly better spot not merely in my situation, but also for every person. I would like my Dominant and my community become pleased with me personally and proud to be linked I am with them with me as. I’m sure that this might appear egocentric or self serving from the submissive’s point of view, but for me self less portion is notably of the crock (I do not suggest to express this is the exact exact same situation for all, nevertheless the thinking at all for me is just not something I can get ahold of) 🙂 if you didn’t feel good doing it, or got something out of it, why would you bother to do it?
A child is told what you should do. a servant does exactly what he is told. – Larry Burden, Avatar Los Angeles
Cruise “To be on the lookout or prowl for anyone to connect with, either for intercourse or play or both. If you should be cruising, you are earnestly trying to find somebody. “If you’re being cruised, someone is actively thinking about you.” – slave marsha, servant to understand Jim, Overseas servant 2001 Cruise Party “A party put up for the express reason for bringing together people who may be thinking about starting up with somebody for play or intercourse or both.” – servant marsha, servant to understand Jim, Global slave 2001
servant marsha, Overseas servant 2001 and Femme leatherdyke, on Butches and Femmes:
There are many “flavors” of Butches and Femmes, including “Stone Butches” and “Stone Femmes” — names that identify the manner in which they engage intimately. (A rock Butch generally will not desire to be moved sexually in virtually any method in which “feminizes” him — that generally speaking means no touching that is vaginal penetration with no breast play. A rock Femme will not wish to touch a Butch in almost any method that “feminizes” him.) Some Butches — like Cougar — carry a great deal masculine energy, they’ve been much more comfortable being addressed with masculine pronouns and honorifics, such as for example “Sir” or “Daddy.” Nevertheless, it doesn’t suggest they will have any plans to change. We Femmes usually see ourselves while the hidden users of the dyke community — our company is often tagged to be right (which will make it tough to obtain the attention of a that is butch, we usually have already come out later on in life because we “pass” very well within the right world, as well as other dykes usually question that individuals’re homosexual after all.
FYI, Butches and Femmes are not generally speaking accepted with available hands when you look at the bigger lesbian community.
As for me personally, Femme is my identification and my sex. I also generally am not attracted to women unless they’re Butches while I am not at all sexually attracted to men. I will be a top Femme, but by nature, maybe not rock. (Although just before Cougar, we just dated Stone Butches therefore I interacted using them being a Stone Femme.) I enjoy the “dance” with my Butch — just how he treats me personally with old fashioned courtesy — taking out my seat, starting doorways, assisting me personally when I step down a curb, assisting with my layer. . I adore the “power powerful” between us — maybe not really a D/s dynamic, but an electrical dynamic simply the exact exact same “Being normal and matter-of-fact about nudity stops your young ones from developing an mindset of pity or disgust about the human anatomy. If moms and dads are extremely secretive about their health and head to lengths that are great prevent kids from ever seeing a buttock or breast, young ones will wonder what exactly is therefore uncommon, and also alarming, about peoples nudity.” – Dr. Lee Salk “Because God created it, the human anatomy can stay nude and uncovered and preserve intact its splendor and its particular beauty.” – Pope John Paul II